There are many variations on the cuckolding theme and within the framework of the cuckolding fetish, but there seem to be a few misconceptions here and there about exactly what cuckolding entails.
I get a lot of calls from guys who tell me they want their wives to cuckold them and then go on to tell me that it’s their biggest fantasy to see her roughly gang banged by a bunch of black men while they watch. That scenario is in no way cuckolding.
While cuckolding generally involves humiliation, it is humiliation on the part of the husband for knowing he is not enough for his wife, rather than humiliation on the part of the wife as she is gang banged by a bunch of rough, uncaring men.
Implied Humiliation
Cuckolding almost always involves some sort of humiliation on the part of the husband, whether it is explicit or implied. Sometimes the humiliation comes from the fact that the husband has a small penis, can’t keep an erection, or ejaculates too soon, rendering him incapable of pleasing her sexually.
Sometimes the humiliation comes from the fact that the hot wife has a very high sex drive that no one man could keep up with, even if he is otherwise adequate. In this case, the wife takes on multiple lovers to satisfy her insatiable sexual appetite.
A big part of the humiliation of cuckolding also comes from the husband being responsible for purchasing the lingerie his wife wears while with other men, as well as, helping her get ready for their arrival.
Explicit Humiliation
The humiliation can also be very explicit, such as the husband being required to fluff the cuckold bull to get him ready for his wife. Oftentimes, the cuckold is expected to lap up the cream pie while he humps her leg, and she tells him all about how good it was with her lover. It also not uncommon for the bull to have his way with the cuckold while he is lapping up that cum-filled pussy.
So there you have it. Cuckoldry does involve humiliation on the part of the male, either implied or overtly expressed.
Until next time~
Cuckolding (still) feels like a new term to me and not one I had known most of my life. I had initially thought it was more “extreme” than anything I had experienced. However as I thought more about it I have been more than a few times near women (who I was very attracted to) who spoke fairly openly to me about how attracted they were (and are) to well endowed guys. With me being a bit on the small/tiny side this would invariably be humiliating. I think sometimes the girls did not totally know this and other times they may not have known exactly how humiliating but somehow they seemed to know I was not a big guy. I feel like often girls can sense this.
Sometimes I think a woman can sense when a man is not well endowed, and play on it. Of course there may have been a chance that she was just being honest, and had no idea that you were not one of the big boys. But then I also think, if a woman felt comfortable telling you about how much she loves big packages, maybe she DID know, and was treating you as such. 😉
Hi Brighton. I know you didn’t write this one, but now that you’re doing the blog, I’m curious about your thoughts. I don’t think cuckolding has to involve male humiliation at all.I know for many it does, but for just as many it doesn’t. I have talked to mistresses here and a couple others who do engage in the lifestyle, and for most it’s a way to enhance her and her male partner’s pleasure without humiliation. My fantasies about it are about enhancing her pleasure. But doing that doesn’t mean she is humiliating me. So I just disagree that cuckolding has to involve male humiliation.
Hey again bfla. I think the blog post you are referring to was specifically talking about cuckolding as it pertains to humiliation. For many cuckolds, being cuckolded IS humiliating and that’s why it turns them on. BUT… the reason I love the cuckold fetish – and I’ve said this before – is because it’s so diverse. On one end of the spectrum, you have the men who delight in the humiliating nature of seeing their partner (or hearing) fuck someone else. And on the other end you have couples who simply get off on watching each other with other people and take pleasure in observing THEIR pleasure. So I totally understand the humiliation aspect, but also the sensual aspect, and the fact that cuckolding can go from mild to extreme, to everything in between. 🙂